Two New Links on Blogroll
Posted on May 13th, 2006 in Uncategorized
I’ve added a couple of new links to the blogroll that I wanted to share about:
dryblog - I first found Bo B.’s dryblog when I got sober the last time… and he’s kept it going for the nearly two years that I haven’t picked up. It really helped me through those early times, and I’m glad to see it’s still there. While I’ve jumped blogs quite a bit, his has always been there for me to check out when I needed a little shot of recovery. Thanks, Bo.
Success… One Day at a Time - Gary Vurnum’s personal development blog. I first started reading Gary’s stuff a while back; this one I found before I got sober. As a matter of fact, I remember when his blog was actually one of the old style perl discussion boards, where he would post his articles and get people talking about them. There are some of those same articles on my own Success Articles blog. I had to put the “plug in the jug” and do some growing up before I could begin to apply the ideas that Gary teaches, but now that I can, I wonder what took me so long??? Thank you too, Gary, for still being there.
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June 2nd, 2006
Putting the “plug in the jug” works….
…..but not for me. I am a real alcoholic. Not a Disco Drunk.
A friend of mine, has been working in my office for last few weeks. We are good friends. He is an ex-protogee of mine who came to our Beginners Big Book Step Study meeting last year up here on the Peninsula of Doom - Cape Cod. (That’s ex-sponsee or “Former pigeon” for all you AA linguists and practicing Big Book attorneys out there.)
We used the Doctors Opinion and forwards very effectively when we worked together. We know it was effective because he no longer goes to AA meetings. WHAT? You read correctly.
The beauty of the forwards and Doctors Opinion is that not only can we use these chapters the determine if someone is alcoholic — but we also can make the determination that someone is NOT alcoholic, wasting his and everyone else’s time better spent working with real alcoholics.
That is exactly what happened with my buddy.
No matter how we tried, we could not look into his drinking history and find the two components of alcoholism combined: Obsession, and Allergy. It turns out he was drinking too much because he wanted to “drown” whatever it was that was eating at him. He was drinking too much, because he wanted to, not because he HAD to. He doesnt need a spirutal awakening to solv ehis problem - he needs a good counselor!
So, he just ” Put the plug in the jug”
It is a good thing too. Imagine if he stayed with the AA Fellowship, and started telling sick, puking alcoholics, who cannot “Not drink” no matter what, to just “Put the plug in the jug, like I did.”
As he once told me “Danny if I say I am an alcoholic in a meeting, just because alcohol is a problem, I am lying” I have real respect for this man. One Big Tip-off was when he balked on his fourth step — just not enough desperation to go to any length. (Some real alkies are not there yet either)
This is why I am so grateful to have learned what alcoholism REALLY is, partially vis a vi The Doctors Opinion and partially from loving Big Book thumpers who had the solution to pass on. My friend is grateful too. Now he does not have to go to meetings. LOL.
If there is ANY part of the Big Book to which newcomers (and oldtimers) and I should pay close attention, it’s the early Chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous - then the rest will have real meaning and utility.
Peace,
Danny S
June 2nd, 2006
Thanks for your comments, Danny.