In the October edition of Tony Robbins’ The Next Level newsletter, there’s a great audio that answers the question: How do I change my life?
Raise Your Standards, Change Your Life
And the strategy that he uses for this?
Turn Your Shoulds Into Musts
If I think about the things that I have accomplished (kicking alcohol, beating depression, stabalizing my income), it’s because I believed that I MUST do those things. When it came to the alcohol and depression, I realized that if I didn’t remove them from my life, I was going to die. Literally.
They were (or I should say their removal was) a must.
And after listening to the audio, I realize just how many of my goals are shoulds. I should make more money, I should be a more loving husband, I should keep my home cleaner, I should write more original articles for my blogs, I should stop smoking…
As Stuart Smalley would say: I’ve been shoulding all over myself.
Maybe it’s time that I started musterbating again. 
Let your brain chew on this for a bit: what is one thing that has been a should, that you can turn into a must, and in doing so, will make a massive improvement in the quality of your life?
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Hehehe @ musterbation…although I probably won’t use that term for my coaching clients!
Lyman, I went to the UPW seminar…it was awesome!!!
Hi Amit,
It is a pretty funny term, huh
. I think it was in Albert Ellis’ “How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything–Yes, Anything” that I first read about it. Of course, he was presenting “musts” in a negative context… how we make ourselves miserable by piling them on. This is in a different light: allowing the musts because they become who we are.
I’m assuming UPW is Unlimited Power Workshop? Thanks for the recommendation!