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Gotta Get Goals!
(14)Posted on April 7th, 2007Lyman ReedUncategorized
I’m not going to tell you what my goals are, even though Alex tagged me a while back with the Gotta Get Goals meme. And look at that, Edward did too!
I’m having too much trouble with this one, so I’m not going to do it.
I’m very standoffish about sharing my goals with anyone. A lot of success literature talks about how you shouldn’t share your goals with people, except those who will be 100% supportive of them. If you think the people you share them with will be anything less than 100%, err on the side of caution and keep your mouth shut.
I bet you there is someone, somewhere out there on the internet who isn’t 100% supportive of my goal to have $25,000 dollars in the bank. They will probably say I’m selfish, hording, a miser, fearful of not having enough and therefore actually in a mindset of lack rather than one of prosperity. After all, what reason is there to accumulate money if we are always prosperous?
And I bet there are people out there who are just sick to death of hearing me say that I want to quit smoking. “Oh, jeez, he’s posting about that again. Just stop smoking, and you’ll be an ex-smoker! What’s your problem? Millions have done it.” They don’t want to hear about my daily struggle with the nicotine demon in my head - if I don’t want to smoke, just don’t smoke! “Put up or shut up, Lyman.” Now we wouldn’t want to hear that from anyone, now would we?
Or my goal of finding a nice guest home or cottage for my wife, dog, and I to move into: one where we don’t have to stand at the ready with the can of Raid no matter how clean we keep it, and one where my dog has an easy way to get outside to do her business so the carpet doesn’t smell like the inside of a septic tank. Now come on… who’s going to rent you a home for what you can afford? Sure, your credit’s gotten better, but it’s still on the septic tank side itself, and will be for a while now. You don’t have much money for a deposit, you live just outside of LA… just be grateful for what you have already!
No… we wouldn’t want people saying those things about my goals. And we wouldn’t want the personal development community on the web talking about how SMALL Lyman’s goals are, would we? No, we can’t have that. Where’s the 10 bazillion dollars a year? Where’s the multi national companies? Where’s the stuff that should be important to me, but really isn’t?
I’m much too busy saying these things to myself to hear other saying them.
So I’m not going to post my goals here. Especially the one about writing an ebook that is downloaded 100,000 times. Now that’s just silly!
My fear of others’ judgments of me come from only one place… my own judgments of myself. I think that “Judge not, lest you be judged” has a meaning other than the traditional one. When we tell another they aren’t good enough, aren’t strong enough, aren’t fast enough, aren’t smart enough, we are judging ourselves. We are judging our own goodness, strength, speed, and intelligence. Is it possible that when Jesus said that “the measure you give is the measure you’ll get”, he wasn’t referring to his daddy in the sky deciding where to send our souls for eternity, but our own subconscious minds holding a ruler up to our own thoughts and actions? When we look at another and judge them, maybe we kick off something in our heads that says “OK, so that’s the standard? I’ll remember that.” And when we don’t measure up, we get the same thing back… magnified.
Good thing I didn’t post my goals. I wouldn’t want any of you judging me.
Because like my last goal: I wouldn’t want to judge myself.
Consider yourself tagged if you’ve read this post.
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14 Responses to “Gotta Get Goals!”
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Haha Lyman, you are awesome. Most unique GGG style so far. Thanks for participating!
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You’re welcome, Alex. I enjoyed it!
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Not to be judgmental, but I like your goals. They are reasonable and don’t exclude compassion.
BTW, when I was in college we had a preacher who said that on “judgment day” we will each be our own judge–and that would be the toughest judge possible.Mom
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BTW again, as has been said before,
Betsy
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Bob Brust April 8th, 2007 at 12:13 pm
Happy Easter Dale,
I’m not sure if you remember me from Olivet, as its been a few years.
I just happened to run across your blog and what a refreshing change to read such positive and encouraging words.
I know your Dad is very proud of his namesake!
I have to agree with your Mom (Hi Betsy)and add “to learn from other’s mistakes.”
Keep up the good work!
Bobby
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Kudos on the format. Unfortunately, you’re already a multinational company.
What will the neighbors think? Who cares?Happy Easter, Lyman!
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Mom (that’s Betsy for those who don’t know) - that’s not judgment when you like my stuff… it’s discernment.
Could you repeat what was “said before” though? It seems to have gotten lost somewhere…
Bob: just to put it lightly… holy crap! Of course I remember you! I think you were Bobby back then, am I right? The Internet is an amazing thing, huh? Thanks for what you said about my dad… that really touched me.
That’s a great addition. I hope to see you on here again.
Rick - That’s hilarious! I guess I am… just still (unintentionally) a non-profit.
Thanks for the kudos, and Happy Easter to you (all of you) as well. -
As far as the smoking thing - you’ll quit when you’re ready to quit. I mean that. I know there are people who say you have to make it a goal, but when I stopped smoking (it’s been a while now too!) it was organic. It felt like the time. And I did it cuz I wanted to. That made all the difference! (Don’t tag me on this meme please please please! I’m with you on the keeping these things in a tight circle idea!) (P.S. Eckhart Tolle writes about how to quit smoking in one of his books. It’s a brief paragraph. But it’s about presence and it’s quite lovely.)
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Hi Christine,
Thanks for the kind words. I suppose that while I’m doing it, I may as well enjoy it and stop kicking the crap out of myself for it.
Don’t worry… you are definitely NOT tagged with this one.
Do you happen to remember which Tolle book? Just curious.
Thanks for the comment. Your new blog looks fabulous!
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Hi Dale, did I miss something?
Hi, that was a great way to do those goals. I didn’t publicize this one, but I want to stop shoulding all over myself.
Cheers,
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Hi Nneka,
I used to go by my middle name (Dale), since I’m a junior and that way it was easier to know who my mom was yelling at, me or my dad.
Some from my past wouldn’t know that I’ve made the switch, and some just can’t get used to it. And it’s cool if I’m still called Dale… I’ve been called a whole lot worse!
I know what you mean about the shoulding… wanting is much better.
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We used to call him other names in church school when we were giving him “noogies” and “barbers itch”!
Just kidding!
Your doing a great job, Lyman. -
Oh, great! Now the repressed memories are coming back… Arghhhh!
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