I’m not going to tell you what my goals are, even though Alex tagged me a while back with the Gotta Get Goals meme. And look at that, Edward did too!

I’m having too much trouble with this one, so I’m not going to do it.

I’m very standoffish about sharing my goals with anyone. A lot of success literature talks about how you shouldn’t share your goals with people, except those who will be 100% supportive of them. If you think the people you share them with will be anything less than 100%, err on the side of caution and keep your mouth shut.

I bet you there is someone, somewhere out there on the internet who isn’t 100% supportive of my goal to have $25,000 dollars in the bank. They will probably say I’m selfish, hording, a miser, fearful of not having enough and therefore actually in a mindset of lack rather than one of prosperity. After all, what reason is there to accumulate money if we are always prosperous?

And I bet there are people out there who are just sick to death of hearing me say that I want to quit smoking. “Oh, jeez, he’s posting about that again. Just stop smoking, and you’ll be an ex-smoker! What’s your problem? Millions have done it.” They don’t want to hear about my daily struggle with the nicotine demon in my head – if I don’t want to smoke, just don’t smoke! “Put up or shut up, Lyman.” Now we wouldn’t want to hear that from anyone, now would we?

Or my goal of finding a nice guest home or cottage for my wife, dog, and I to move into: one where we don’t have to stand at the ready with the can of Raid no matter how clean we keep it, and one where my dog has an easy way to get outside to do her business so the carpet doesn’t smell like the inside of a septic tank. Now come on… who’s going to rent you a home for what you can afford? Sure, your credit’s gotten better, but it’s still on the septic tank side itself, and will be for a while now. You don’t have much money for a deposit, you live just outside of LA… just be grateful for what you have already!

No… we wouldn’t want people saying those things about my goals. And we wouldn’t want the personal development community on the web talking about how SMALL Lyman’s goals are, would we? No, we can’t have that. Where’s the 10 bazillion dollars a year? Where’s the multi national companies? Where’s the stuff that should be important to me, but really isn’t?

I’m much too busy saying these things to myself to hear other saying them.

So I’m not going to post my goals here. Especially the one about writing an ebook that is downloaded 100,000 times. Now that’s just silly!

My fear of others’ judgments of me come from only one place… my own judgments of myself. I think that “Judge not, lest you be judged” has a meaning other than the traditional one. When we tell another they aren’t good enough, aren’t strong enough, aren’t fast enough, aren’t smart enough, we are judging ourselves. We are judging our own goodness, strength, speed, and intelligence. Is it possible that when Jesus said that “the measure you give is the measure you’ll get”, he wasn’t referring to his daddy in the sky deciding where to send our souls for eternity, but our own subconscious minds holding a ruler up to our own thoughts and actions? When we look at another and judge them, maybe we kick off something in our heads that says “OK, so that’s the standard? I’ll remember that.” And when we don’t measure up, we get the same thing back… magnified.

Good thing I didn’t post my goals. I wouldn’t want any of you judging me.

Because like my last goal: I wouldn’t want to judge myself.

Consider yourself tagged if you’ve read this post. :)

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