Comments on: Choice and Blame (or Who Decides When I Get Off Of The Bus?) http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/ Tools to Assist You In Your Personal Development Journey Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:07:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lyman Reed http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9089 Lyman Reed Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:49:58 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9089 Hi Dean - Thank you! :) No, the blogging bus is one that I have no plans to leave anytime soon... it's that other one, the day job that I'm looking at. Even when I've tried jumping off of the blogging bus, I keep getting pulled back in. Thanks for your comment... it really meant a lot. Hi Dean – Thank you! :) No, the blogging bus is one that I have no plans to leave anytime soon… it’s that other one, the day job that I’m looking at. Even when I’ve tried jumping off of the blogging bus, I keep getting pulled back in.

Thanks for your comment… it really meant a lot.

]]> By: Dean http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9088 Dean Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:39:28 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9088 Hi Lyman, I've been reading your site for a short time. In this breif time, I'd have to say that you have gone through some interesting experiences and you have grown tremendously. I hope you stay on the blogging bus as an inspiration to us, your readers. But that choice is up to you. :) Hi Lyman,

I’ve been reading your site for a short time. In this breif time, I’d have to say that you have gone through some interesting experiences and you have grown tremendously. I hope you stay on the blogging bus as an inspiration to us, your readers.

But that choice is up to you. :)

]]> By: Lyman Reed http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9068 Lyman Reed Wed, 29 Aug 2007 10:37:25 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9068 Nneka - I'm really glad that you mentioned the huge doses of self-forgiveness... it's so important that even when we do make amends to others, we include ourselves in there. And re: the plugin, it's at http://www.raproject.com/wordpress/wp-ajax-edit-comments/ Patricia - thanks for your comment. You are right: awareness and acceptance of who and what we are right now are key. Al - thanks for commenting as well. Welcome! :) Nneka – I’m really glad that you mentioned the huge doses of self-forgiveness… it’s so important that even when we do make amends to others, we include ourselves in there. And re: the plugin, it’s at http://www.raproject.com/wordpress/wp-ajax-edit-comments/

Patricia – thanks for your comment. You are right: awareness and acceptance of who and what we are right now are key.

Al – thanks for commenting as well. Welcome! :)

]]> By: Al http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9054 Al Wed, 29 Aug 2007 04:45:44 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9054 Great post Lyman. Very up front and honest. I very much agree regarding perspectives (choice vs prison). Great post Lyman. Very up front and honest. I very much agree regarding perspectives (choice vs prison).

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9051 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Wed, 29 Aug 2007 03:24:39 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9051 Lyman, what a great place to be. Awareness is such a big step and has to be our first in recovery. Acceptance of where we are comes next before we can move forward. Congratulations on your choice to heal. Lyman, what a great place to be. Awareness is such a big step and has to be our first in recovery. Acceptance of where we are comes next before we can move forward. Congratulations on your choice to heal.

]]> By: Evolving Times » Law of Attraction Carnival #25: 1-Year Of Attraction In Action http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9044 Evolving Times » Law of Attraction Carnival #25: 1-Year Of Attraction In Action Tue, 28 Aug 2007 22:01:42 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9044 [...] Lyman Reed at Creating a Better Life presents Choice and Blame (or Who Decides When I Get Off Of The Bus?). Lyman emphatically reminds us that, “Bring the Law of Attraction into it, and even those [...] [...] Lyman Reed at Creating a Better Life presents Choice and Blame (or Who Decides When I Get Off Of The Bus?). Lyman emphatically reminds us that, “Bring the Law of Attraction into it, and even those [...]

]]> By: Nneka | Spirituality Blog http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9028 Nneka | Spirituality Blog Tue, 28 Aug 2007 13:54:48 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9028 Hi Lyman, so much synchronicity! This is an excellent post. For years, when I was with my husband, I blamed him for me not living my life and I did it in a really perverse way. I pointed out to him all the ways that he wasn't really living. You truly live with your mirror. Finally, I decided to live my life regardless of what he was doing and take complete responsibility for my life. He didn't change, but I changed radically. It's amazing how that happens. Also, I did a guest post today on Kara-Leah's site on <a href="http://www.klmasina.co.nz/2007/08/28/forgive-yourself-review-of-balanced-life-centre/" rel="nofollow">Forgiving Yourself</a>. I realized that it was much more productive to make the best possible choice than to continue to beat myself up for what I did to him (I did make ammends). You have to take radical responsibility with huge doses of self forgiveness for it to work. You illustrated so eloquently how much your life has changed and how you make better and better choices everyday. In Spirit, Nneka PS. What do you use to do the edit comment after post? That's a really neat plugin. Hi Lyman, so much synchronicity! This is an excellent post.

For years, when I was with my husband, I blamed him for me not living my life and I did it in a really perverse way. I pointed out to him all the ways that he wasn’t really living. You truly live with your mirror.

Finally, I decided to live my life regardless of what he was doing and take complete responsibility for my life. He didn’t change, but I changed radically. It’s amazing how that happens.

Also, I did a guest post today on Kara-Leah’s site on Forgiving Yourself. I realized that it was much more productive to make the best possible choice than to continue to beat myself up for what I did to him (I did make ammends).

You have to take radical responsibility with huge doses of self forgiveness for it to work.

You illustrated so eloquently how much your life has changed and how you make better and better choices everyday.

In Spirit,
Nneka

PS. What do you use to do the edit comment after post? That’s a really neat plugin.

]]> By: Lyman Reed http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9015 Lyman Reed Tue, 28 Aug 2007 07:12:44 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9015 Aaron - It may be reciprocal... but thank you for all that you've done to help me in my own personal growth. And I should have figured you were a Rush guy! Mike - You're welcome! It's helpful to know that my babbling on here does do some good! :) Ellie - Welcome to the blog, and thanks for your great comment! I went through what I'm thinking are some pretty typical steps when it comes to the LoA... first exhilaration, then disappointment, then fear... and now empowerment. This little realization of mine was so different from past ones, because I actually <strong>didn't</strong> beat myself up about it. I saw it, corrected it, and moved on. And did it feel GOOD! Just like you said - as I shift, my life shifts... and I think that this was a major turning point. Aaron – It may be reciprocal… but thank you for all that you’ve done to help me in my own personal growth. And I should have figured you were a Rush guy!

Mike – You’re welcome! It’s helpful to know that my babbling on here does do some good! :)

Ellie – Welcome to the blog, and thanks for your great comment! I went through what I’m thinking are some pretty typical steps when it comes to the LoA… first exhilaration, then disappointment, then fear… and now empowerment. This little realization of mine was so different from past ones, because I actually didn’t beat myself up about it. I saw it, corrected it, and moved on. And did it feel GOOD! Just like you said – as I shift, my life shifts… and I think that this was a major turning point.

]]> By: Ellie http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-9010 Ellie Tue, 28 Aug 2007 05:07:59 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-9010 Hi Lyman...... I just found your blog and read this post and the Radical Responsibilty post....... I identified with beating the crap out of yourself - I have been there and done that! And I, too, learned about taking responsibilty for my life in AA. I got sober 23 years ago...... I totally believe in taking responsibilty for my life and I totally believe in the Law of Attraction..... For me, learning about LOA - I finally learned how to not beat me up! I finally learned how to be kind to me - how to love me unconditionally. I don't think taking responsibilty means I need to be mad at me or correct me. I need to look at whatever I created/attracted - and I need to accept - Yes I did that! If it is something I don't want to do or be anymore - I just need to accept where I am at this moment and know where I want to be. When I demand change from me -- well what you resist - will persist. When I can say - Yes I did that - without any judgment - I can easily shift into a better feeling place... as I shift - my life shifts. ******************* Driving to prison -- Hmmm we don't have to drive as the prison is within -- which also means we can get out anytime we choose...... Create a Wonder-Filled Day! ;) Ellie Hi Lyman……

I just found your blog and read this post and the Radical Responsibilty post…….

I identified with beating the crap out of yourself – I have been there and done that! And I, too, learned about taking responsibilty for my life in AA.

I got sober 23 years ago……

I totally believe in taking responsibilty for my life and I totally believe in the Law of Attraction…..

For me, learning about LOA – I finally learned how to not beat me up! I finally learned how to be kind to me – how to love me unconditionally.

I don’t think taking responsibilty means I need to be mad at me or correct me. I need to look at whatever I created/attracted – and I need to accept – Yes I did that!

If it is something I don’t want to do or be anymore – I just need to accept where I am at this moment and know where I want to be.

When I demand change from me — well what you resist – will persist.

When I can say – Yes I did that – without any judgment – I can easily shift into a better feeling place… as I shift – my life shifts.

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Driving to prison — Hmmm we don’t have to drive as the prison is within — which also means we can get out anytime we choose……

Create a Wonder-Filled Day! ;)

Ellie

]]> By: Mike DeWitt http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-8987 Mike DeWitt Mon, 27 Aug 2007 14:43:57 +0000 http://creatingabetterlife.net/2007/08/26/choice-and-blame-or-who-decides-when-i-get-off-of-the-bus/#comment-8987 Hi Lyman, I was feeling fairly bus-bound this morning; thanks for this reminder that it's all my choice. :-) Mike Hi Lyman,

I was feeling fairly bus-bound this morning; thanks for this reminder that it’s all my choice. :-)

Mike

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