Your Lips Say No, But Your Eyes Say Yes
Ever hear that one? Do people really use that in real life?
When it comes to affirmations and goals, it should probably be “Your Lips Say Yes, but Your Vibration Says No.”
One of the biggest distinctions that I picked up from “Money, and the Law of Attraction” by Abraham-Hicks was the idea that we can be saying, affirming, or visualizing one thing, but vibrating another.
If we’ve accepted the idea that it’s our vibration that does the attracting (I have), shouldn’t we be focusing on those things that bring that vibration into alignment with our desires, and avoiding (or at least not focusing on) the things that don’t?
This may be one of the reason that some people have a problem with using positive affirmations (like I’ve had in the past) - all they are doing is saying something that they didn’t believe, and therefore causing even more cognitive dissonance… often with not very pretty results.
But if we use those same affirmations as a tool to adjust our vibration, instead of thinking that it’s a statement of fact… would the results be better?
(Maybe I need to read some of my own stuff every once and a while.)
And maybe, affirmations just aren’t the way for some people to go?
Personally, I’m finding the much simpler “find something to be happy about” works better for me.
All of our goals are in place for one reason - because we believe that when we reach them, we will be happier in some way.
But we can cut out the middleman, and just be happy now.
This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t have goals and move toward their achievement. As a matter of fact, when I feel good, I’m able to stay focused on, and therefore work more at, those things that I want. Then I get to be happy before I achieve something, while I’m working on it, and continue to be happy long after I’ve reached my goal.
Be Happy Now.
“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” — Wayne Dyer
This post has 5 comments
September 25th, 2008
Great post. I agree that the fundamental step that leads to the biggest breakthroughs is the moment when there is a kind of harmony between what we think and say on the one hand and what we’re physically doing in the world on the other.
September 25th, 2008
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said we can cut out the middleman and just be happy now. But how?
I read recently that unhappiness is over-focusing on the small things that are wrong. Something or someone is imperfect, so let’s get mad or unhappy.
Perhaps happiness is just over-focus on what’s right.
September 26th, 2008
@Derek - Absolutely… whether you call it a vibration or not, the more a person’s thoughts match up to their actions, the better their results will be.
@Brad - You hit that nail yourself when you said that unhappiness can come from exaggerating those things that are “wrong”. The cool thing about life, though, is that those things that are “right” always outnumber the things that are wrong. Life is just set up that way… otherwise it never would have continued. So if exaggerating the good works, great! But I’m not so sure it’s necessary… just looking around consciously is usually enough for me.
More on “But How” coming in the follow up post.
October 2nd, 2008
I read recently that unhappiness is over-focusing on the small things that are wrong. Something or someone is imperfect, so let’s get mad or unhappy.
I think you read right, I am starting to learn its best just to move on from certain things as opposed to trying to fight them.
October 2nd, 2008
@stubsy - “it’s best to move on from certain things as opposed to trying to fight them.”
Absolutely. It’s amazing to me the number of things that I’ve allowed to mess with my own emotions simply because they weren’t the way I thought they should be.
Thanks for the comment.
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