Creating a Better Life

Unmanageability: Hacking the 12-Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

“1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.” - Alcoholics Anonymous, Chapter 5, Page 59

“Is he not a victim of the delusion that he can wrest satisfaction and happiness out of the world if only he manages well?” - Alcoholics Anonymous, Chapter 5, Page 61

After writing about powerlessness a couple of days ago, I thought I’d take a look at the second part of the first step, which mentions unmanageability.

GTD, the Four Quadrants, the ABC method, Simpleology - there are quite a few systems that people use to try to get some level of manageability into their lives today. Each of these methods has its strengths and weaknesses, and each is trying to do the same thing - to provide the user of the system with a method to “wrest satisfaction and happiness out of the world.”

But if we look at the second quote above, we see that Bill Wilson (the primary author of AA’s “Big Book”) is saying that it’s a delusion that managing well will bring us the satisfaction and happiness that we are looking for.

Step One is Step One. This step is simply a recognition of the problem that we have, and after we’ve recognized the problem it’s time to start working on solutions.

But to say that making life more manageable will not bring you happiness on any level is, in my opinion and experience, a mistake. Managing well may not be the end all and be all of happiness, but to say that bringing our lives back into our own conscious control and direction will bring no satisfaction is simply not true.

Control and direction. There’s only one thing in life that we can exercise direct control over, and that’s own conscious thoughts.

Whether you believe that your thoughts directly create our world, or that they are the cause our feelings and behavior and therefore allow us to have an influence on what happens to us, one of the basic truths of life is that when our thinking changes, our lives change.

In chapter four of “The Science of Getting Rich”, Wallace Wattles states that “There is no labor from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought; it is the hardest work in the world.”

But it’s also the most rewarding.

The rest of the 12 steps are a method that a person can use to change their thinking - and therefore change their life. They aren’t the only way - but they are a way.